My Partner Cheated! Is it the End?

In any committed relationship, if a partner cheats it can seem like the end of that relationship. Promises will have been made, trust will have been established, and it can all seem like it has all been thrown away on a whim. I will be looking at ways of establishing whether cheating has to mean the end of a relationship, or whether there is anything worth salvaging.

Cheating strikes at the heart of any relationship. If you find that your partner has shared that level of physical intimacy with someone else, it begs the question; what other possibly more private things have they shared. It is worth remembering that sharing secrets is often considered more of a betrayal than physical intimacy in the long run. This sense of a closed and private world having been broken into is what drives most people to end their relationship if they find they have been cheated on.

It is worth though, taking a deep breath before you do anything permanent. Think of the time you have spent building what you have; do you want to throw it all away in a fit of temper? You might find, that once you have had time to weigh this one indiscretion against all you have built, that you do not want to throw the relationship away.

No matter how betrayed you feel, it is worth sitting down with your partner and trying to discover the reason that they felt they needed to cheat. It is important that the onus is kept on the person who cheated to explain their action. Often I have spoken with people whose partner cheated and they have become convinced that it is their fault. This is never the case.

In my opinion, if someone cheats on his or her partner, it is a sign that the relationship is over. It is possible to re-build; some couples are undoubtedly stronger for it. In my experience though it is almost impossible to re-build trust once it has been broken.

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